WHY ARE MY SIMS SO MEAN TO EACH OTHER?!?!

So I hadn’t noticed it in the game before, but when I started playing my current save I have been playing for a bit now I started noticing that the two Sims that seemed like they should be getting along fine (they were friends I believe) started to automatically do mean things to each other, especially my active sim, pointing out the visiting friend’s flaws. Their traits didn’t suggest they were to be naturally mean either. As you can predict since I couldn’t stop this incessant meanness coming from nowhere when they had gotten along good before the two quickly dropped back into mere acquaintances. I tried to build their friendship back up as they seemed to be potential good roommates who both loved animals and I really liked the idea of her as a roommate. The two would get along if I directed the conversation, but leave them alone for a second, and they were at each other again. What the heck?!? That got old very quickly and I soon had enough as even with Sims that didn’t like each other I had never seen so much meanness autonomously being thrown at one another in the Sims before.

Now you may be inclined to ask me at this point: Did you have mods? And I don’t blame you. The answer would be: Yes. Did it occur to me that a few of these mods may be messing with the game’s automatic interactions? Yes again. However, all my mods were up-to-date and I had the ones I questioned it might be longer than I had this problem or so I assumed. See my first mistake? Assuming my mods being updated to the latest patch at the time and not thinking the mods went through any changes that could affect the autonomy was definitely number one on the list. Now I am notoriously bad at not reading through all of what a mod entails if the basics sound great and most of the mods I do download and use tend to be simpler. However, as you probably already are aware, there are an increasingly large amount of those mods out there that, although amazing, are fairly complicated with how many things they can actually do and if you aren’t paying enough attention, or have a lot of different mods, things are easy to miss.

Since I had so many mods I considered what the best way to go about narrowing the problem down was without going straight to taking everything out first. I decided to go with the good old google search and literally searched: “Why does my sim keep pointing out flaws and doing mean actions in sims 4?” The first two results already looked very promising. This was also from the ea.com answer board. (The link and credit for answers found is in link at end of this post.) The first result from the ea.com answer board had about ten pages of similiar stories but after a few pages I went to the second result also from ea.com answer board as this thread was under game mod issues more specifically instead of just bug reports. I figured it was more likely a mod and I could go back to the first thread later. The original post in the second result I went to that started it off was actually done in December 2020 and the user asked, ‘”Why are all of my Sims CONSTANTLY being rude?”‘ I read through the problem they were having and it sounded very familiar. I kept reading and they were similiar stories just on the first page. When I got to the last two comments on that first page I believed those two may be what it boiled down to. One was a comment about the Slice of Life mod by KawaiiStacie eventually leading to this behavior. In their case it was only the husband doing the mean things out of his usual behavior but when they went under the SOL settings when clicking on them they found a Prevent/Remove Toxicness option. They said once they tried that he has been good since then. I reread it a few times and even though it didn’t seem to fit the situation exactly I figured I would see if I could find that option on one or both Sims in this case. I went into my active household under each of the sims and looked and looked but could not find that option anywhere. I decided this was most likely not it and in the post they did say it happened after the family was three kids in already.

So on to the next option that seemed possible, which was a user who commented that if you have the mod Have Some Personality Please (HSPP) by Polarbearsims that could allow autonomous mean interactions. I thought that is a possibility I suppose since as far as mods go that was one of my newest. Yet something made me hold off on removing that mod and testing at that time. I decided to reread the posts one more time to see if before starting to remove mods, there was more tweaking options to any existing mods I had in the game. I do mention this in here though because I didn’t realize that the mod HSPP did that but again I am bad at looking mod info completely over, and I suggest you on this, or any other mod, learn as much as you can before placing it in your game to be better able to pinpoint the mods that may be causing specific bugs by their settings alone. However, there is always google, the forums, and the creators’ discords (usually), if you don’t want/have time to as well so no worries! Just make sure to also have backups of your saves before playing with a new patch that requires new updates of mods or using a brand new mod that you may add in here and there.

So moving on to where I found something that suddenly seemed like this could be it. The poster suggests that in the mod MCCC (MC Command Center) by Deaderpool you can remove the autonomous interactions that bother you like the rude or mean interactions. A lightbulb went off in my head knowing how many different settings they were in MCCC and that with the recent new updates maybe something in that changed. Like I said, I don’t read everything I should, and the changelogs for mods are no exception. I decided to look at that first because the poster mentions mischievous actions too and I also realized that a lot of mischievous autonomous actions were also happening so I had a good feeling about it. I still had my game open and I clicked on the computer and MCCC as I thought that is where the autonomous settings would be under and I was in the right place. This is how to get to the settings:

**STEP 1:

Okay so you don’t actually have to have your sim sit at the computer to select the computer MC Command Center menu – LOL – but you get the idea :)

**STEP 2:

Once in this menu above scroll down until you see the MC Tuner option like in picture. From there, there will be three options: Change Interaction Behavior…, Change Interaction Autonomy…, and Autonomy Scan. We want the Change Interaction Autonomy option. Should look like picture below and once in that menu choose autonomous mean:

Steps 3, 4, and 5:

Mine has already been disabled but when I went into it the first time to look it was the default, which was enabled. I clicked the disabled option (as it is on now) and once I saved, exited my game as you have to for changes to take effect, and loaded back into the game and this save, I saw an immediate difference. Worth noting that I went into the michevious autonomous section too and disabled that too – it looks the same as the autonomous mean menu above.

As you can see knowing what settings you want MC Command Center (and other mods) to have for each game save can be important and you might not know until you run into something like I did. That being said it is still an awesome mod and comment on this post if you want me to do an in-depth review of the mod on my YouTube channel and if I get enough interest I will! Here is a picture of my happier two sims now: (Anaya making a funny face – she’s not being mean – promise 🙂 )

Also, credit for the answers to this issue go to the posters in the answer thread that started at this link: https://answers.ea.com/t5/Game-and-Mod-CC-Issues/Why-are-all-of-my-Sims-CONSTANTLY-being-rude/td-p/9865739

Also in case you were interested in the link I went to first: https://answers.ea.com/t5/Bug-Reports/NEEDS-SAVES-Sims-autonomously-do-mean-interactions-for-no-reason/td-p/9821620

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